We all do it.
The quiet hesitation before starting something that matters. The sudden urge to clean the kitchen before writing the thing. The mysterious fog that descends just when you were about to take that next step.
We call it self-sabotage.
But what if it’s not sabotage at all?
What if it’s a form of protection — a soft, loyal part of you trying to keep you safe from failure, shame, or disappointment?
Why We Sabotage Ourselves
We often think we’re just being lazy or unmotivated. But in truth, the part of you holding back is not against you. It’s working hard to avoid pain. It may be afraid of being seen. Or of succeeding and then burning out. Or of trying your best… and still falling short.
Self-sabotage isn’t the villain.
It’s a misunderstood bodyguard.
And the more you push against it, the louder it resists. Which is why willpower alone rarely works.
The Power of Small Thinking
Here’s what changed everything for me:
Instead of pushing harder, I started thinking smaller.
Not small in vision — but small in action.
Tiny questions. Micro-movements. Ridiculously achievable steps.
When I feel the fog roll in, I don’t demand a breakthrough. I ask:
“What’s the next tiny thing I can do that doesn’t scare me?”
“What would feel 5% easier?”
“What would help me feel more anchored in this moment?”
Sometimes it’s one line of writing. One deep breath. One kind word to myself.
And almost every time, that’s enough to shift the momentum.
Self-sabotage doesn’t need a battle plan.
It needs patience. Compassion. And permission to go slow.
If you’ve been stuck in a loop of starting and stopping, pushing and freezing — maybe it’s time to stop pushing altogether.
Try listening. Try softness. Try small.
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